L6:THE EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE

 L6:THE EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE

   -Emotion was adapted from french word "emouvoir" in 1979 meaning "to stir up

  - A world without emotion is a world devoid of warmth, vitality, and color.

 

𝚁𝚘𝚋𝚎𝚛𝚝 𝙿𝚕𝚞𝚝𝚌𝚑𝚒𝚔

 -A psychologist whose created the "THE WHEEL OF EMOTION" which could help us to better understand the various aspects of emotions.

 THEORY OF EMOTION OF "PLUTCHIK"

1. The concept of emotion is applicable to all evolutionary levels and applies to all animals including humans.
2. Emotions have an evolutionary history and have evolved various forms of expression in different species.
3. Emotions served an adaptive role in helping organisms deal with key survival issues posed by the environment.
4. Despite different forms of expression of emotions in different species, there are certain common elements, or prototype patterns, that can be identified.
5. There is a small number of basic, primary, or prototype emotions.
6. All other emotions are mixed or derivative states; that is, they occur as combinations, mixtures, or compounds of the primary emotions.
7. Primary emotions are hypothetical constructs or idealized states whose properties and characteristics can only be inferred from various kinds of evidence.
8. Primary emotions can be conceptualized in terms of pairs of polar opposites.
9. All emotions vary in their degree of similarity to one another.
10. Each emotion can exist in varying degrees of intensity or levels of arousal.

INTENSITY OF EMOTIONS

 -Strenght of the emotions varies                  form mild to intense.

- it has 3 types which is the                          BASIC, MILD, STREAM.

 

 

•PRIMARY BIPOLAR EMOTIONS

 -Joy vs. Sadness

 -Anger vs. Fear

 -Trust vs. Disgust

 - Surprise vs. Anticipation

8 𝚃𝚈𝙿𝙴𝚂 𝙾𝙵 𝙱𝙰𝚂𝙸𝙲 𝙴𝙼𝙾𝚃𝙸𝙾𝙽𝚂

1.) JOY- the feeling of happiness,gladness,delight and bliss.

2.) SADNESS- the feeling of unhappiness,gloomy, and lonely.

3.) FEAR- the feeling of scared, frightened, or anxious.

4.) ANGER- the feeling of mad,irritated, and annoyed.

5.) DISGUST- the feeling of something wrong, erroneous, or dirty.

6.) TRUST- it means belief and confidence.

7.) ANTICIPATION - it constitute looking forward to something positive.

8.) SURPRISE - the feeling of something that we do not expect.

TWO CATEGORIES OF EMOTION

POSITIVE EMOTION

—Some emotions are positive. Think of happiness, joy, interest, curiosity, excitement, gratitude, love, and contentment. These positive emotions feel good.

 

 NEGATIVE EMOTION

— like sadness, anger, loneliness, jealousy, self-criticism, fear, or rejection — can be difficult, even painful at times.

—Negative emotions are impossible to avoid, though. Everyone feels them from time to time. They may be difficult, but we can learn to handle them.

 

WAYS TO HIDING YOUR EMOTIONS

Hiding your emotions is probably something you do often. It’s something we all do very often. You silence the pain and bottle up your anxiety, fear, and anger. But little by little, hiding your emotions stops being functional. Instead, it causes mental blocks keeps you from good health, spontaneity, and personal growth.

WHY WE HIDING OUR EMOTION

So why do people sometimes feel much differently than what they express, and why do they keep their true feelings in hiding?

The reality is different people have different reasons. Some keep their true feelings much more hidden than others do.

To really understand people, we must understand their motivations for keeping feelings hidden. Why some keep almost all true feelings and emotions hidden. While others are much more forthright and comfortable in their expressions to others.

 

Tips

Keep a private journal. That way, you can express the words you want to say without anyone hearing. Just be careful to keep it in a secure location, or write it in code (for example, you could replace the name of your beloved with another name).

Warnings

Avoid the temptation to express your hidden feelings on social media such as Facebook or Twitter. Those posts will inevitably be seen by or forwarded to the person you are hiding your feelings from.

WAYS TO MANAGE YOUR EMOTIONS

There are a number of actions that you can take that will help you to manage your emotions. Many of them are very general, but try them because you may just find that they work.

Exercise: this releases reward and pleasure chemicals in the brain such as dopamine, which makes you feel better. Being fit also makes you healthier, which helps in managing emotions.

Be kind to others, because this helps stop you worrying about yourself.

Be open and accept what is going on around you. Learn to appreciate what is happening and avoid excessive criticism of others or of situations. This is linked to mindfulness, which is about being aware of what is going on in the moment.

It’s good to talk. Spend time with other people and enjoy their company.

Distract yourself. Yes, you really are that shallow. Watching a bit of TV, reading, or surfing the internet will probably help you forget that you were feeling a bit down.

Don’t give in to negative thinking. If you find yourself having negative thoughts, then challenge them by looking for evidence against them.

Spend time outside. Being in the fresh air, especially around nature, is very helpful for calming the emotions. There is evidence that we need to see horizons, so if you can go up a hill and look at the view then do.

Be grateful. Thank people in person for doing nice things for you, and remember it.

Play to your strengths. That often means doing things that you enjoy, but it also involves doing things that are good for you.

Notice the good things in your life. In old-fashioned terms, count your blessings.

WHAT I HAVE LEARNED

I have learned that you should talk to them, even though you're scared. It's the only way to resolve the issue. Even if you weren't entirely in the wrong, you should apologize for your part in the fight and tell them you still want to be friends (assuming you do want that). Most likely it will blow over quickly after you've done this. If you keep avoiding them, it's just going to get more and more awkward.